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Monday, 6 July 2026
Introduction
Reflections on “The Yakuza”
Reflections
on “The Yakuza”
Directed
by Sydney Pollack
Screenplay
by Paul Schrader and Robert Towne
Starring
Robert Mitchum. Ken Takakura, Keiko Kishi and Brian Keith
I have to say that I
consider “The Yakuza” something of a guilty pleasure. While I enjoy the exploration
of duty, friendship, trust and responsibility, I am more than willing to
recognise the film has numerous flaws. It is undeniable that the film is
repetitive, contains verbose and unnecessarily lengthy exchanges of dialogue, and
suffers from a convoluted, contrived and unclear plot that unfolds at a leisurely
pace in places.
However, I do enjoy the
depth of characterisation in the principal characters, the Japanese environment,
the pervading sense of cultural displacement and mystery, the nagging sense of
heartache leading to remorse, and the exploration of neo-noir or existential
themes such as self-respect, “giri”, and the nature of morality, duty and
loyalty, elements of Bushido, the code of ethics of the Samurai who were the
forebears of the modern Yakuza.
Underpinning everything,
and fundamental to the concept of “giri” (the Japanese cultural notion of duty,
debt or obligation which is a driving force in nearly all the characters in the
film) is existentialism and the idea that our lives, choices and actions impact
the lives of others and we should recognise responsibility for that impact.
Of course, also
fundamental to existentialism is the principle that morality does not exist. No
external moral authority holds us to a sense of responsibility. It is entirely “self-contained”
and, as one character in the film says to our hero Harry Kilmer, “If you don’t
feel it, it doesn’t exist”. It is a matter of personal honour and integrity.
In keeping with the
principles of film noir and existentialism, in our film legality is for others
and is casually set aside. Harry has learned that law and law enforcement go
only so far and then personal judgement must come in to play and personal debts
may take priority over legal restrictions. Here, we are dealing with how men
conduct themselves in life and in business, and the code by which they live.
Friends turn to one another for help and we focus on the themes of loyalty and
trust, but especially a sense of debt or obligation the one might feel toward
the other and the lengths to which one will go to satisfy that debt.
Former military policeman
and sometime jobbing private detective Harry Kilmer is asked by friend George
Tanner to rescue his daughter who has been kidnapped by members of a Japanese crime
syndicate or Yakuza. Harry is indebted to George for saving his life so he
accepts the task. George is aware that a former member of the Yakuza in Japan owes
Harry a similar debt and he expects Harry to play on that debt to help resolve
the situation with his daughter. Harry travels to Japan where he meets an old
flame, Eiko, and her brother Tanaka Ken, the former member of the Yakuza who is
indebted to Harry for rescuing his sister in his absence during WW2, and Harry
enlists his help to discharge his debt to George.
Naturally, being a film
noir, all is not as it seems and complications ensue…
Although separated by
thousands of miles and markedly different cultures and traditions, the rival
camps are effectively motivated by similar catalysts. The fundamental code of
reciprocity, honour, reliability and loyalty underpins relationships on both
sides, formal in the Japanese camp where these qualities are essential to the
conduct of business and relationships, and much more informal in the American
camp where they are underlying, even dormant, but may be called upon at any
time.
At the film’s core,
however, is an exploration of the importance of trust and its place in
relationships and loyalty to friends, and the consequences of betraying it or
withholding essential information that affects it.
Trust is based on
experience and confidence gained in a person, and the result of trust is
believing that person and accepting their word without doubting motive or
circumstance. The effect of discovering trust is misplaced, due to manipulation
or omission, can cause great emotional distress.
Trust plays a major role
in the dynamics of the film – Harry trusts George Tanner, just as Tono, the
Japanese gangster with whom Tanner has dealings, also trusts him. Harry also trusts
Eiko, Tanaka Ken and Dusty, but it transpires trust is misplaced in nearly all
cases and this brings about consequences…
Harry is angry, bitter
and resentful toward George Tanner when he learns George has lied to him and
used him for selfish and manipulative ends, and Harry is devastated when he
learns that Ken and Eiko have omitted to tell him the truth about their
situation out of gratitude and in order to spare his feelings of guilt and
responsibility. In reality, they are man and wife, not brother and sister, and
Ken found the debt he owed his enemy so unbearable that he left his wife and
child, and worked with the Yakuza.
Clearly, this theme of
misplaced trust is linked to “giri” or obligation, the motivating factor for
the main characters. However, George has acted dishonourably and
disrespectfully, so the debt or obligation owed by Harry is undone and Harry
will take his revenge on George.
Feelings of existential responsibility,
debt and guilt are further explored when Harry recognises the life-changing
offence and pain he has caused Ken through involvement in his life, even if
inadvertently. As a man of honour, and following Japanese custom, Harry commits
yubitsume, the ritual cutting off of a little finger in physical
retribution and as a sign of guilt, repentance and respect.
In a way, we share Harry’s
pain as, just like Harry, we were not in full possession of the facts and we
drew our own conclusions, conclusions that are altered dramatically by the film’s
revelations.
“The Yakuza” had a
troubled development and production history with several writers, directors and
stars attached at various times, and suffered from numerous attempts to adapt
and firm up the script. It did not fare well at the box office and there are signs
of a lack of a clear vision for the material, but it remains an engaging if
uneven foray into neo-noir and existential territory. While largely European in
style, with emphasis on character rather than plot, the action scenes are very
well done and are quite thrilling in places.
I believe this was Robert
Mitchum’s last big screen credit as a leading man and I would say that in the
closing scenes he gives a magisterial and utterly convincing performance. I
should add that the haunting music by Dave Grusin beautifully captures the
intrigue, romance and emotional turmoil of the film.
My thanks for taking the
time to read this article. I hope you found it of some value.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)
Wednesday, 1 July 2026
Using film and song in the modern languages classroom
Using film and song in the modern languages classroom
I am not arrogant enough to recommend or even suggest teachers should pursue the course of action outlined here – every teacher must find methods and strategies that suit him/her and their students – but these methods worked for me and my pupils, and I do think they are worth considering.
Before dealing with the broader educational reasons for using film and song in the modern languages classroom, I would point out a few practical or more directly linguistic reasons for their use:
Pupils or students see and hear language in action, and this is not confined to the more traditional practices of using artificial and contrived examples of use of vocabulary and structures pupils have been studying. While such exercises are essential when first presenting new structures and vocabulary, film and song offer a sense of freedom beyond the classroom walls and an application to reality, while also inviting learning in an engaging form of entertainment.
Study of a language need not be restricted to words and structures and should be expanded to incorporate contexts, situations and places that lead to a broad discussion of culture, society, mores and thinking, and films, film clips or songs are the perfect vehicle for such developments.
Background knowledge by way of reading remains unreliable and may be unpopular (when suggesting to a class of 13-years-olds that they could read a chapter or two of a book in bed before going to sleep, I was once greeted with “What saddo would do that?”, a sentiment shared by most of the class). Films, clips and songs offer a degree of teacher control but also allow room for pupil input leading to collaboration and engagement.
It might be an idea to start by showing a clip from a foreign film or playing a song toward the end of a lesson to prove that language is used and culture exists beyond the confines of the classroom.
Carefully chosen clips of just a few minutes duration or a short song may be used to introduce or illustrate points regarding culture and society, but may equally be used to illustrate language points the class has been studying. Broad observation-style questions could be prepared, or comprehension questions if focusing on language. Pupils or students in more advanced classes could be invited to describe a character or discuss their reaction to him/her, or give their thoughts on a song and why it was written.
Discussion of the film or song could or even should take place in the native language to begin with (to encourage participation and build the confidence necessary to share ideas), followed by preparation of the structures and vocabulary in the foreign language to enable students to express their ideas in the foreign language being studied. Notes prepared by the teacher should reflect the input of the students. Vocabulary and structures shared with the class should be largely the result of discussion and brainstorming.
Although teacher-led (teachers should prepare thoughts on themes and notes on character and character development, offering students basic phrases and choices of vocabulary to reflect possible responses as well as students’ own reactions and feelings), there is substantial (and essential) input from the students who are motivated as they are expressing their own thoughts and engaging in something far greater than an academic exercise in language-learning. The language becomes a means to the end of self-expression rather than an end in itself, offering satisfaction and ownership.
It is essential NOT to simply supply pre-prepared vocabulary and structures or sentences. While judicious questioning can direct students toward certain aspects or concepts, students should feel that the language produced is largely the result of their efforts to reflect and to express their views. Vocabulary and structures should be shared with the entire class and not just individual students – good ideas and useful vocabulary and expressions will benefit all.
With more advanced classes (such as Higher and Advanced Higher in Scotland, A-level in England), an entire film may be used and students may be invited to give a brief synopsis and discuss characters and themes in brief, expressing (after discussion in the native tongue and preparation of structures and vocabulary in the foreign language in the way previously outlined) their own thoughts and reactions to the film viewed.
Music and song appear to be even more effective than film alone. I have used French musicals or French films that use music as an essential element in the storytelling (“Les Choristes”, “Notre Dame de Paris” and Les Misérables”) and I found that students responded more immediately and with greater emotional engagement and understanding if songs were used to advance the storyline or build character development.
Certain songs were studied individually to exploit vocabulary but also to discuss what is conveyed about characters, their outlooks and the broader themes of the piece.
The result is that the task transcended a “normal” linguistic exercise and it was no longer regarded as a dull, scholarly lesson. Students found the exercise fulfilling as they felt they were being consulted, had ownership of their work and were not obliged to comply with fixed or rigid outcomes. Moreover, analytical skills and background knowledge gained in this process may be transferred to other subjects and topic areas such as English, History, Philosophy and Health and Wellbeing.
Shared resources and worksheets have a necessary place in language learning but the process outlined here leaves room for impromptu and spontaneous personal contributions, and while it may appear somewhat disorderly, the end result was motivated and enthusiastic participants who produced lucid and committed work.
Of course, it is not intended that films and songs should be used in every lesson, but they may provide a channel for exploitation of knowledge and linguistic skills developed elsewhere in the syllabus.
Looking
beyond the linguistic and analytical components of using film and song in the
classroom, students willingly participated in self-organised concerts, sang
songs studied in class, and were keen to attend cinematic or theatrical
presentations of films or shows studied in class. There was even correspondence
with a French film director and a French-Canadian singing star, and encounters
with numerous performers in shows.
In 2015, I was very touched to receive the following missive from a former senior pupil. I share it (with her permission) in the hope of encouraging teachers of modern languages to at least contemplate making use of film and songs in the classroom, and inviting students to reflect on them and share their responses to them.
I
would just like to thank you for all the French you have taught me over the
years. From speaking to many folk who were taught French from crap French
teachers, I feel sorry for them. They have never heard of Notre Dame de Paris
or Les Misérables. What the feck?! Thank you for the amazing academic years you
gave us. Best teacher ever! Feeling blessed to know the things you taught us.
xx
Please find below the titles of a few French films, among many others, that were particularly successful or popular with pupils, and for which notes on character and theme may be found on my blog or my YouTube channel:
Taxi
Les Choristes
La Rafle
Untouchable
Oui, mais...
Jean de Florette
Manon des Sources
Molière
Subway
Nikita
Léon
Angel-A
Les Enfants du Paradis
Notre Dame de Paris
Les Misérables
My thanks for taking the time to read this article. I hope you found it of some value.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)
Monday, 25 May 2026
Reflections on “The Dirty Dozen”
Reflections
on “The Dirty Dozen”
Directed
by Robert Aldrich
Written
by Nunnally Johnson and Lukas Heller
Starring
Lee Marvin, Ernest Borgnine, Charles Bronson,
John
Cassavetes et al.
Often much admired for
its depiction of male bonding, The Dirty Dozen is equally often dismissed for
its so-called macho posturing and as a rather nasty glorification of violence.
In my humble opinion, in
places this is a challenging existential anti-war film that dips into film noir
territory as it presents an uncomfortable case for the use of amorality as a
defence against amorality. It also invites viewers to reflect on the nature and
importance of society, social structure, humanity, justice and the very
existence of morality.
Our film may usefully be
divided into three sections, exposition, training and the execution of the
mission.
The Dozen are not
misunderstood or hard-done-by heroes. They have all committed crimes and are
about to pay the price for them, by hanging or long-term imprisonment. The
legal system that found them guilty may be imperfect and may not have taken
compassionate account of all the circumstances leading to their crimes – the
men may show regret, the circumstances of their wrongdoing may not be as
clearcut as we might expect, with undoubted extenuating circumstances in some
cases, and their backgrounds may have made their choices virtually inevitable,
but these are not innocent men who have been wrongly convicted. They are flawed
human beings, some of whom may elicit a degree of audience sympathy while
others may provoke disgust, but they are being used (or abused) in a scheme in
which they are being invited to risk their lives for the greater good, though
their alternative is certain death or a life of permanent hardship and
imprisonment.
So, we have an imperfect system
of justice casting judgement on imperfect human beings who are to be exploited at
the behest of and for the benefit of others. It is clear that mankind is
responsible for its own existential system of rules and conduct, not a higher
morality. This is made plain when Major Reisman rolls his eyes and treats a man
of God dismissively at a hanging he is invited to witness.
The Nazis set aside
niceties of order and principle to assert themselves and establish a somewhat
prejudiced and skewed order in their favour. So, to ensure victory, the Allies
are equally willing to set aside such niceties. All is fair in love and war, so
they say, and it is decided to adopt what would normally be regarded as unscrupulous
and unprincipled tactics to ensure an early end to the war. Amorality will be
used to defeat amorality.
The Dozen are to be sent
on a suicide mission to attack a château near Rennes in Brittany in which
numerous senior members of the Nazi command spend time for rest and
recuperation, and quite simply, they are to eliminate as many as possible. In
return, at Major Reisman’s insistence, those who survive may receive remission
or commutation of their sentences. So, they have nothing to lose and something
to gain.
Fundamentally, the
military is more than willing to take advantage of the precarious situation of
our “heroes” to do dirty deeds but this time for the greater good, though
“innocent” lives will be lost, but this is considered collateral damage, again
for the benefit of the greater good.
It is clear we are in
existential territory in which so-called normal standards of morality do not apply,
especially since these standards have been rejected by the enemy and it seems
that the best way to eliminate the enemy is to apply their own standards to
them. Morality, standards and rules are social niceties that apply only if or
when everyone accepts them and submits to them.
After the somewhat sombre
exposition, there is a positive, even uplifting, period of training which forms
the entertaining and heartening bulk of the film.
Our “heroes” undergo and
respond well to a form of what might be termed socialisation during which they are
reminded they have a common purpose and are responsible not just for themselves
but for one another. They learn that co-operation and discipline with purpose
are better than individual attempts at chaotic survival. They make a practical
choice to collaborate since it is to the advantage of all concerned – this is a
form of social contract, and not for high-minded or moral reasons.
Gradually, through common
purpose, trust in one another and hope, they start to bond and become a team.
They are dependent on one another and are united against a common enemy and perceived
unfair treatment. This is achieved, largely, not by way of heartless discipline
and authority, but by mutual dependence, esteem, a degree of sympathy and
understanding, and of course a heartwarming camaraderie that has evolved in the
course of their training. This may fairly be judged to reflect the situation in
society at large in which people showing respect and consideration, not
religious codes of belief or strict discipline, ultimately impact, inspire and
shape the lives of others.
Having established that man
can be influenced positively by circumstances and direction, reality encroaches
and our “heroes” must undertake their mission. They have been training for a
purpose and their pasts catch up with them – there is a price to be paid for
this fresh opportunity to rebuild themselves.
During the last part of
the film and the execution of their mission, the true underlying purpose and
themes of the film are explored.
This is not an action
film set in WW2. It is an anti-war film in which violence is used to depict the
horrors of war, and these horrors are not limited to one side. Brutality is
used to combat brutality, and the images are all the more striking because we
have built a sympathy, even an empathy for our “heroes”. However, all the
characters – Allies and Nazis – are presented as human. Not all those in the
château are Nazis or deserve to die and, in much the same way as we were
invited to reflect on the fates of our Dozen, we are invited to consider the
purpose of their mission and to balance it with thoughts of justice and
fairness. The pain is real and death is equally final no matter which side you
are on, and the cruelty and brutality are all the more stark because here the
Allies are responsible for them. The audience feels a certain ambivalence as we
support those who attack the Nazis, yet we are horrified by the brutal acts inflicted
on relative innocents undertaken in the name of Allied forces. We are presented
with realities of war in which pain and suffering are real and are used by both
sides to gain victory, with both sides convinced of the righteousness of their perspective.
We may understand and accept the premise of the mission but the harsh realities
are hard to bear.
This is surely an
existential slant in which principle, values and morality are set aside to
cause maximum damage to one’s enemy, and in which collateral damage is accepted
as part of the price to pay.
Reisman, who has been
presented as a tough but human officer willing to question and test military
convention and authority, is a professional soldier who does what is necessary
to complete the mission. Despite his apparent humanity and compassion, he will
focus on the mission and apply brutal determination as and when is necessary.
Do fairness and justice
exist? It appears to boil down to individuals and what they are willing or
unwilling to do according to perspective and circumstance, to defend their society
and attack their perceived enemies.
My thanks for taking the
time to read this article. I hope you found it of some value.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)
Reaction to Megalopolis
Brief
reflections on Megalopolis
Written
and directed by Francis Ford Coppola
Starring
Adam Driver, Giancarlo Esposito, Nathalie Emmanuel et al.
I truly hate to be negative,
but I fear Francis Ford Coppola (for whom I have great respect as a director)
has tried too hard to make a work of art with this film.
It seems to me that in
making Megalopolis, Mr Coppola has sacrificed clarity, substance and engagement
for style, symbolism and indulgence. There is a lack of engagement with the
characters because they are clearly representatives of attitudes and outlooks rather
than fleshed out, believable and affecting, while the plot is a contrivance to
make social and political points. The characters are tools in a mechanism
created by Mr Coppola to say something about American society, politics, ambition
and family, but also to show how clever and artistic he is.
At its core, I think this
is probably a good story regarding the condemnation and demise of a society
built on money-making corruption and the ever-increasing gap between the very wealthy
(or “haves”) and the poor (or “have nots”). However, that is buried, along with
clarity, somewhere beneath the mass of unpursued plot threads, the myriad of inconsistent
or underdeveloped characters who make occasional appearances, pass comment and
move on, bloated set pieces and clunky, forced dialogue which, in places, seems
to aspire to Shakespearean tones. The style and self-awareness of Mr Coppola’s
direction and script do nothing to engender sympathy, compassion or even
intellectual satisfaction while in terms of performance, I am not convinced the
actors always knew what purpose their scenes served or where these scenes
fitted in the story arc.
On the positive side, the
film is beautifully mounted with some dazzling and spectacular sequences and
individual moments of brilliance, but overall its individual parts are greater
than the whole. I’m afraid that, for me, it’s an exercise in cinematic
posturing whose self-awareness condemns it to fail and I suspect Mr Coppola
recognised these issues as he has labelled his film “a fable”, emphasising the
artistic distance between his film and its audience.
Many reviewers have
lauded the film’s ambition and I have to agree the film is astonishingly
ambitious, but that alone does not make it worthwhile. Ambition must be
tempered by respect and regard for those at whom the film is aimed, and I’m
afraid it seems to me that Mr Coppola became so absorbed in his own thoughts
that he failed to consider his audience.
The Godfather films and
Apocalypse Now worked, along with many other Francis Ford Coppola films, because
of the fundamental humanity of the characters and the effort to produce a
coherent, well developed and natural plot which suggested respect for the
audience and recognition of the need to involve it rather than patronise it as
is the case with this artificial and contrived effort.
My thanks for taking the
time to read this article. I hope you found it of some value.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)
Monday, 4 May 2026
Some reflections on Critical Thinking, what it is and when to use it
Some
reflections on Critical Thinking, what it is and when to use it
Much is made these days
of the term “critical thinking” and it is frequently used to suggest
gullibility or naïve acceptance on the part of those who appear to put little
thought into perspectives and perceptions.
So, what is “critical
thinking” and why should it be considered important?
Before studying the
operation of critical thinking, let us consider a few potential consequences of
not applying what is, after all, merely a system of verification or checks and
balances.
In the modern age when
communication is easy and pressure to make commercial, legal or social decisions
can be insidious and immediate, whether over the phone, via email or in a sales
environment, it is essential to be able to verify or assess identity, figures,
facts and reliability. Otherwise, you may enter into a contract with hidden
clauses, false figures or disreputable partners. You may accept financial or
business propositions over the phone from people falsely claiming to belong to
a reputable organisation. You may hire dubious tradesmen to work on your home
who fail to provide adequate documentation or guarantees. You may even be
persuaded to vote for a politician who bombards you with general promises and
statements of intent without furnishing details of just how his/her promises
will be achieved and what he/she is likely to obtain personally from securing
an elected position.
These (and many others)
are all situations that may be avoided through use of critical thinking, which
is merely the exercise of care and attention through application of reasonable doubt
and verification. It is in your own best interests, indeed I would go so far as
to say you owe it to yourself, to think critically.
At the heart of critical
thinking is respect for objective truth.
Respect for truth must surpass
opinion (which may consist of unsubstantiated thoughts or views), ambition (a prejudiced
desire for a particular outcome to be the case), advantage (an unwillingness to
accept a challenge to your belief if it weakens that belief) and pride (a
stubborn refusal to change your mind despite clear and persuasive evidence).
Statements should not be
accepted at face value. Corroboration or validation is required and may
reasonably be expected. The proposer of a statement or contract should be able
to provide clear evidence to support their claims.
Corroborated or validated
accounts and evidence may be gathered to support or deny an affirmation (using
facts, witness statements or accounts, images, sound recordings etc.). No
extraordinary deductions should be reached – conclusions should be supported by
facts, evidence and reason.
Recognition or
acknowledgement of facts is essential, even (and especially) if the facts and
evidence contradict previous statements or views. The overriding factor is a
desire to reach the truth, not provide support for a particular standpoint.
Denial of facts or
evidence, and conclusions drawn from them, is unreasonable and unacceptable as
it is tantamount to setting subjective interpretation or insistence on a chosen
viewpoint above objective evidence. Refusal to accept evidence and fairly-drawn
conclusions will render a counter-argument invalid.
That said, some
statements and evidence may be open to interpretation. Context and precision
should be applied to reading of language or interpretation of evidence, and
conclusions should be reached only if supported by reason and facts.
There may be insufficient
evidence to support a conclusion but reasonable inferences may be drawn
(clearly labelled as such), or there may be sufficient evidence to cast doubt
on another assertion without necessarily proving a case.
Recognition of ignorance
is essential – there should be no assertion of knowledge based on mere supposition
or belief.
Insistence on a view
despite counter-argument involving the presentation of facts and evidence
suggests dependence on personal conviction rather than a pursuit of objective
truth, and that view should be considered subjective or invalid.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)
Wednesday, 29 April 2026
Very brief reflections on the relationship between an artist, art and “consumers” of art
Very
brief reflections on the relationship between an artist, art
and “consumers” of art
An artist may seek to
convey a “message”, discuss a theme or draw attention to a concept by
contriving a representation through poetic beauty, an engaging narrative or a
striking image that captures the spirit of whatever truth or principle he/she
has identified, and the “consumer” attempts to deconstruct this contrivance or
artifice to elucidate the “message” contained within the artist’s work.
Intelligibility may depend on several factors including the level of lucidity
of the artifice and of course the level of perception on the part of the “consumer”.
Naturally, this
deconstruction or analysis is open to personal interpretation and may involve
ideas and concepts not originally intended by the artist whose work,
essentially, takes on a provocative or evocative life of its own. The consumer
is focused on the work of art before him, not on the ideas and concepts the
artist originally tried to convey. The work of art may be viewed as an
independent entity given birth by one but whose interpretation is developed or
nurtured by another, therefore creating a “formula” of creator – product –
interpreter.
An intriguing thought -
can this principle be applied to all forms of communication? A poem, image,
text, film, song, even a sentence, may be produced with one concept in mind but
it may be interpreted by the consumer in a quite different way, dependent on
the consumer’s background, frame of mind and powers of perception. If this is
the case and a product is declared a work of genius, who deserves credit – the
creator or the consumer? It is possible, after all, that the source of genius
is in an interpretation not considered by the creator.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)
Very brief reflections on respect and self-esteem
Very
brief reflections on respect and self-esteem
This
piece is one of an occasional series of articles produced
under
the banner of “self-healing”
If you regularly seek
validation through the eyes and views of others, you may lack self-confidence.
Bear in mind this desire
for validation suggests a lack of perceived respect, and may be symptomatic of
poor self-esteem. However, your perception of yourself (and others) may be
skewed, flawed or inadequate and you may be creating issues that need not, in
fact, exist.
You do not need to seek
the validation of others. It is a pleasant bonus but it is not a necessity.
Learn to see the value of
your own thoughts, actions and words. Let others draw their own conclusions but
care less about their opinions. Be willing to see and recognise your own value,
especially as you will have carefully considered your choices of thought,
action and words. This is not arrogance, it is realism. You are willing to
acknowledge qualities in others – apply the same criteria to yourself.
The attitude of others often
reveals something about them and their outlooks. You will not appeal to
everyone and it is their right to reject you or disagree with you, but that
does not detract from the worth of your considered contributions (as perceived
by yourself and those open to your views and mindset).
Do not assume lack of
interest, rejection and even disrespect are the norm and represent a set
standard. People merely reveal their own standards. Be willing to recognise shortcomings in
others whose perceptions and self-image may also be skewed or flawed.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)
Very brief reflections on low spirits and self-perception
Very
brief reflections on low spirits and self-perception
This
piece is one of an occasional series of articles produced
under
the banner of “self-healing”
When we retire or
withdraw (for whatever reason) from an active, focused, professional life, it
is easy to become introspective, lose sight of a sense of purpose and edge
toward a feeling of pointlessness or worthlessness. Of course, this sense of
torpor need not be restricted to those who are ageing or who have retired.
Feelings of lack of worth or failure to contribute meaningfully can strike at
any age, at any one of us and with no respect for “success” or otherwise, but I
would point out one thing – all these negative feelings are the result of and
are dependent on your perception of yourself and your circumstances. Others may
point out positive aspects of your life, your character and your circumstances
but their efforts will be to no avail if you cannot adjust your perception of
yourself and your situation.
So, I suggest that a
first step in resolving torpor, a feeling of pointlessness or low spirits, is
to make an effort to cease introspective reflection and a focus on your
perceptions of failure, weakness or even guilt, which will almost undoubtedly
be out of all proportion with reality, and consider others, your influence on
them and their perceptions of you.
Be fair to yourself as
you would be fair to and understanding of others. Recognise you may have become
self-absorbed and perhaps excessively self-critical. Recognise your weaknesses
but also your positive input and influence in the lives of others.
This positive influence
or input may take many forms, even that of mundane interaction. If you were
pleasant to a sales assistant or had a friendly word with an elderly person in
the passing, you may have made that person feel valued or appreciated. At work,
you may contribute positively in interactions with co-workers, clients,
customers, patients, pupils or anyone in need of a helping hand. Your attention
or kindness, while rather taken for granted by you, may give a boost to others.
Do not deny your positive
influence. The offer of a helping hand, advice, sharing laughter, knowledge or
wisdom – fleeting moments that may mean relatively little to you – may impact
the lives of others and make their lives more interesting, bearable, pleasant
or even more worthwhile.
Your influence or impact
may seem unobtrusive but take heart from the fact that, perhaps by virtue of
your very existence and by being yourself, you exercise or have exercised a
positive influence on those around you and you need to be open to recognising
your own input, value and worth just as you would recognise these elements in
others.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)
Very brief reflections regarding therapy and self-healing
Very
brief reflections regarding therapy and self-healing
This
piece is one of an occasional series of articles produced
under
the banner of “self-healing”
Although discussion of
personal issues is often regarded as therapeutic in that analysis may allow a
person to view issues differently, it seems to me that these “cathartic”
reflections may also have the effect of reinforcing the existence of issues and
augment reaction to them. Recognition need not lead to resolution. It may be
advisable to avoid wallowing in feelings raised in discussion as this may
perpetuate and exacerbate existing problems.
It may be advisable to try
to consign issues to the past, focus on present circumstances and apply your
own learned world view.
There is no need for
validation, affirmation or justification as a result of past experience and
what may be considered “errors” of judgement. The fact you are reflecting on
the past and consider some acts or decisions as errors suggests you have
regrets and have learned from the past. Reliving past errors may only reinforce
the issues caused by these errors. Be the person you have learned to be, not
who you were during your evolution. Recognise your achievements and skills
without diminishing them or undermining them through fear and doubt which are
of your own creation, or regret for actions of the past. Fear and doubt that
you experienced in the past need not apply to the present or future. You have undoubtedly
proved yourself (to yourself and others) many times – acknowledge that and
don’t torture yourself with artificial and unwarranted doubts and fears.
Pleasing or accommodating
people need not apply – any feelings of inadequacy (based on self-doubt) will have
been invalidated many times. You may assert yourself and simply be yourself as your
views are as valid as others’ views, perhaps even more so due to reason and
insight.
Practise being calm and
clear-minded. It is often thought control of emotion and the mind will lead to
calm, but control of physical response to stimuli can also be immensely helpful
and will allow clarity and reason to gain the upper hand in testing
circumstances. Deep, regular breathing is helpful, as well as control of
emotions.
Perspective and
proportion are essential. Bear in mind that ultimately everyone is equally
insignificant and nothing matters.
Stuart Fernie (stuartfernie@yahoo.co.uk)






















